Thursday, March 28, 2013

We will leave for Europe two weeks from tomorrow. Oui!

Yes, yes, I know I said I wouldn't be updating much, but this is as much a diary for me as it is updating friends and family.

Whirlwind this week, trying to get everything ready for my sub at work and trying to get everything ready to be gone for so long. Throw in multiple phone calls to schedule Dr's appointments and arrange meetings/phone calls for the kids when they start school. Oh, yes, and another uneventful trip to Naperville for fingerprints today. And one more trip to Springfield for one more apostilled document next week.

Tomorrow we have a conference call with our adoption agency to talk about bonding and attachment. Looking forward to learning more about that. Then next week, we have another phone call with the agency to talk about travel.

The emotions we feel change from minute to minute sometimes. They range from sadness for the kids, joy, excitement, anxiety, nerves, gratitude, and disbelief. I am certain we will be bouncing from one emotion to another for awhile.

Monday, March 25, 2013

Snow Day!

When I was a kid, I thought there was no way teachers could be as excited as the students when a snow day hit the district. Wrong! This teacher was thrilled when a snow day was called today. More time to get things marked off my list!

We purchased our tickets to get to Poland. We're leaving the US on April 12 and spending about 24 hours in Paris before heading on to Poland. My uncle said, in his humble opinion, Paris is much nicer than Warsaw. I am sure it is. I would love to be eating croissants and baguettes and drinking coffee in cafes with the Eiffel tower in the background for longer than 24 hours. But, we're taking off enough time as it is.

In fact, we probably won't get back to the States until June 7...which is why we haven't bought our tickets home yet. We should find out for sure when we leave on our May 14 court date.

Anyway, we're planning to arrive in the kids' city on the afternoon of April 14. We will meet them on April 15.

The kids now know that they are being adopted. Our adoption agency thinks they are doing okay with it. We hope so!

I probably won't be posting much in the new couple of weeks. There shouldn't be anything new to report, and we're going to be busy, busy, busy.

Thursday, March 21, 2013

Checking things off the list

I made the last of three apostilling trips (I hope!) to Springfield this morning. They couldn't do one document because it was a federal document, and they can only do our state. So I will have to send this document away. Where to and how long it will take, I'm not sure yet.

At first I thought our adoption was crazy, but it sounds like everyone who adopts internationally has many challenges. Different countries have such different requirements, things get lost in translation, etc. Even in the same country, different states (or judges or prosecutors) have different interpretations on what should be done. 

What I mean to say is that this journey has required huge amounts of flexibility and patience (and I don't have a lot of either). I've been very frustrated at times, sometimes to the point of tears (though I always tried to wait until I was in my car :), or office, or something). And it definitely isn't over. I hope we can be patient, flexible examples of Americans when we're waiting on embassy appointments and passports and visas when we're just ready to come home already. 

But if you're called to adopt, don't be scared. If we can do it, you can, too!

We have our apartment (much nicer than we expected!). It has a washer and dryer and wi-fi, so we should be able to keep everyone updated (though we can't share pictures of the kids until our May 14 court date). It's also decorated in pink and purple. Bryan is excited ;).

We're waiting on our airline quote to come back so we can buy some tickets. We actually may leave a couple of days early to stop off in France to see my uncle. So we could be leaving the US in 22 days.

And we're not sure if the kids know yet or not. I have asked, but sometimes it takes some time to get an answer.


Monday, March 18, 2013

27 days and then, Poland, here we come!

It's close. Real close. As in, 27-days-close.

We're planning to land in Poland, in our children's city, the evening of April 14 and meet the kids for the first time on April 15.

The plan:

April 15-18 - daytime visits
April 18-May 14 - "bonding" period where the kids stay with us in our apartment
May 14 - court date
Be away for 7 weeks. (Yes, that is one week longer than we planned.)

More details soon!

Friday, March 15, 2013

Closer and closer

Last night, we were told we could "pick" when we would make our trip over the big pond, although the suggestion was mid-April. "Does the Aberle family think they could make that work?" our contact in Poland asked.

Um, YES! So I gave them a range of dates (April 8-15). Of course April 8 isn't really mid-April, but it sounded good to me. We have to wait on getting our fingerprinting done, plus we have to get a couple of forms signed, notarized, and apostilled (maybe this will be my last Apostilling adventure). Plus we need to wait on something called the Article 5 letter. In my limited understanding, this comes from the US embassy in Poland. We think that it will get to our Polish contact today.

We are still waiting for confirmation that April 15 or earlier will be acceptable. I can't concentrate very well. I, who normally fall asleep 2 minutes after my head hits the pillow and sleeps for 7 straight hours until I awake refreshed, could not fall asleep last night. Then I could not stay asleep. I woke up for good at 3 am. My mind was full of all the things we need to do. So, at 4 am, I came downstairs and made my giant to-do list: packing lists, clothes, work issues that need to be taken care of, calling the school district, etc.

We're thankful it's getting so close!

Edit: I should have waited to write this until after I checked the mail. We got our fingerprinting appointments today, so it looks like we'll be making a trip to Naperville on March 28. This doesn't allow us to leave earlier, but it makes me feel better that we should definitely have it done in plenty of time.

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Our winter projects

While we have been waiting on our paperwork, we've done a few projects that have been our to-do list for a few months (or years). (Note: When I say "we," I really mean Bryan.)

Our sweet old house had very few rooms with overhead lighting, so we put in a couple of overhead lights. Currently they're just bulbs, but maybe we'll get some interesting light fixtures in 2015. 

We also got a lamp from an old, sweet, now deceased friend in 2005. It's been collecting dust since then. About three months ago, Bryan gave it a coat of oil-rubbed bronze spray paint (that stuff is fantastic!) and it began to look more like our style. Well, we finally put that up this weekend. We are not sure how we feel (correction: Bryan is very sure how he feels about it!) about its extra crystal baubles or gold lampshade when our style runs toward burlap and wood.

Then we're in the middle of lambing season, so we have a couple of these:


And I also resigned from my job. Probably. And definitely sadly. I really like my job. I have the best students (they got me the flowers in the picture below) and it's been fulfilling and because of how much I enjoyed it, it's helped me stay positive through some rough patches in my life. But this is a new chapter in our lives. So with some sadness, we turn the page and look forward - with JOY! - for the adventure that awaits us. Officially my last day is July 31, though I want to teach two more classes this fall. But everything depends on when (if) they find a replacement for me. I may end up needing to put in a few more months. We'll see.

But our biggest project has been in our kitchen. I wanted to wait to do anything to it until we had the money saved up to do everything exactly how I wanted to do it. You know:
  • new cabinets
  • moving the range to an outside wall and get a range hood
  • new flooring
  • new paint
  • new hardware
  • new sink
  • new countertops
  • maybe even move the sink
The most special part of kitchen were the cabinet handles. They had these little pins that you pushed in to open the cabinet door and, if you weren't careful when you shut the door, they flew out and fell on the floor. I was used to it, but it got on the nerves of other people who used our cabinets. And I'm sorry, Shara, but it really amused me.

Anyway, for nearly six years, we stayed with it as is. And our savings went to other things. After some budget analysis recently, we decided that the kitchen really wasn't that important to us, so let's do what we can...cheaply!

So we broke out some paint leftover from my sister's laundry room (maybe four years ago?). And we painted our cabinets, spray painted some light fixtures, and bought some new hardware and new curtain fabric. We kept everything else the same.

Before: 


 After: (actually, this is in progress. As you can see, we don't have all the cabinet doors on yet.)
Not bad for a budget kitchen renovation, right?
Here is the curtain fabric. I love how it matches the counter top that I don't have to change :)!
And here is a look at the kitchen nook - and a better look at our paint. I like the aqua color a lot and sometimes just stare at the contrast between the fresh aqua and the crisp white.


On to more important things...our contact in Poland is working on our embassy paperwork. When we get that next round of paperwork, our court date can be scheduled. While I was hoping to know our dates this week, it may be up to two weeks from now. As long as we have no more delays, we should still be back for my sister's wedding.






Friday, March 8, 2013

Official letter - Received!


Update the Paperwork Process
Step one - Physicals -  DONE!
Step two - State of IL approval - DONE!
Step three - USCIS approval - DONE!
Step four - Poland approval - DONE!
Step four a - Send the paperwork to USCIS - DONE!
Step four b - Nervously await USCIS response - ordered stomach ulcer medication
Step five - USCIS approval - DONE!
Step six - wait 30 days until our fingerprint appointment before we can travel
Step seven - meet our children!

And just like that, we marked something else off the list. For sure.

Today we got our letters :). We should be scheduling our court dates and buying our plane tickets now, but - ahem - with all the things we had going on, I forgot to refile our approval extension paperwork (which also includes another fingerprinting appointment). Last time our fingerprinting appointment was 6 weeks from the day we sent our application in. With one week down, we have about 5 weeks to go. Although, maybe it will be faster this time since they aren't looking at our paperwork for the first time.

I think our caseworker is on vacation this week, so I am not for sure when we'll be leaving. I am guessing that we will leave within 6 weeks...but it must be after our fingerprinting appointment is done. As long as we leave within 8 weeks, we should be home in time for Jenna's wedding.

I still can't believe we were approved but we're thankful!


Monday, March 4, 2013

Did you hear that?

Thump!

That was me, falling off my chair. And wait until you hear why. (I didn't fall off my chair, but I was very surprised.)

Normally we wait to receive our USCIS correspondence through the mail. Today, I was sitting there, feeling slightly impatient and I said to myself, "Why not enter into the 21st century and use email?"

I had their email address and shot off an email.

I didn't expect anything today. Maybe in four days.

At 1:50 PM, I opened an email. It said something like: Your files have been reviewed and will be approved today. Expect your official approval letter in 7-10 days.

What?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

Friends, I can't believe this. I am so shocked. Immediately, I began to wonder, did she get the wrong person? Is she talking about our refile paperwork or is this the real deal? I reread the email several times. I went through various scenarios and kept coming up with this must be real.

If this is real, we will be able to start scheduling our Poland court dates soon. We do need to get our fingerprints redone before we leave so we may be delayed a bit.

But it's coming!


Update the Paperwork Process
Step one - Physicals -  DONE!
Step two - State of IL approval - DONE!
Step three - USCIS approval - DONE!
Step four - Poland approval - DONE!
Step four a - Send the paperwork to USCIS - DONE!
Step four b - Nervously await USCIS response - ordered stomach ulcer medication
Step five - USCIS approval - I think so!
Step six - wait 30 days before we can travel
Step seven - meet our children!